I was one of those premature grey girls.  Almost magically the #silverhair first appeared on my 40th birthday. Dark hair is unforgiving when it comes to grey. I fought back for 10 years, eventually resorting to bleach blonde so I didn’t have to touch up the roots every 4 weeks (only every 6).  Was it hard? Definitely, especially with long hair.  Was it worth it?  Definitely.

Let’s do some math:

$110 per salon visit every 6 weeks X 10 years = 86 salon visits = $9,460

But you deserve it and besides it’s nice to be pampered

Yes, this is true . . .

But, for $9,000 I could have gone on 10 – count them 10 – Caribbean cruises

That’s one cruise a year, every year, for 10 years!

And then there is the hair loss

Hair loss is an inevitable part of midlife and it begins at menopause. Actually it isn’t so much loss as thinning. During an interview with Women’s Heath Mag, Dr. Tsippora Shainhouse, a board-certified dermatologist in Beverly Hills and a clinical instructor at the University of Southern California explained “As we age, hair decreases in density and the individual hair strands become thinner”.

According to the  Dermatology Times “the best advice is to do as little as possible to the hair.  Minimize combing, brushing, dyeing, perming, straightening, and styling to traumatize the hair as little as possible”.

So there you have it.  Coloring your grey is a double edge sword. Look younger now or balder later.

But I don’t want to look old!

Ahhhh, there’s the rub.  Greying men look distinguished but greying women just look old.  The youth culture reigns supreme.

But why is that?  Because we bought into this when we were younger and continue to perpetuate it.

Coloring your hair contributes to the problem of ageism – there I said it.

So long as it is a social norm to color your hair to hide the grey (and your age), there will be a social norm that women with grey hair are old, out of touch and invisible.

See how that works?

Longer life spans and changing economic landscapes mean that more and more of us will be working well into our 70’s. More about this here.  It is up to us, GenXBoom, to establish a new norm.  An inspired, creative and fulfilling second chapter that allows us to boldly share our talents and wisdom with the world.

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Ageism must stop here and we can make the difference.

Thanks for reading.  If you enjoyed this post please comment, like, share and follow.  It means alot to me and I would love to hear your perspectives on this issue.



  1. Alessandro Tinchini

    This is a point we never stop going back to. People react in different ways to aging, especially when they see the first white hair.

    My cousin is ten years younger than me and she started to show the first silver hair when barely twenty.
    I am almost thirty-nine and still no sign.

    I realize that for women it’s harder to face this kind of reality, but the few young and greying women I met in my life were very charming. I remember growing infatuated with one of them.

    So you have my whole support!

    • Roma Wright

      Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. It really is a hard decision, especially if you are in a very competitive field dominated by a youth culture. I had a friend that was completely gray at 30, but since she still looked very young it had the opposite affect. Instead of becoming “invisible”, she received more attention for her beautiful platinum hair. The real problem isn’t grey hair, it’s ageism and all the stereotypes that go with it.


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